Steve Harvey Gives Women The “skinny” on Men and Relationships on The Oprah Show: Part Two
Comedian Steve Harvey pays a second visit to the Oprah Winfrey Show where his discussion with her audience of women was sometimes laugh out loud funny, and other times deadly serious. Harvey’s comical, yet insightful views are based on his best-selling book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man".
A couple of weeks ago, comedian Steve Harvey, was a guest on the Oprah Winfrey Show and was so hilariously dynamic, she invited him to return. On his second visit, she said she would give Harvey, one of The Original Kings of Comedy the entire hour to discuss points from his best-selling book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man”.
Well, today was the day, and with a studio audience of 300 women, and a viewing audience of millions, Harvey hit it out of the ballpark once again. His insights and advice to women regarding how men think about women and relationships, and how women can consciously tune in to that, was right on target.
There was however, more questions on sex than Harvey seemed comfortable in answering, and I’m sure some people felt comfortable listening to. Then again, many people can’t differentiate between intimacy (which is what he was trying to deal with), and sex.
In the article I wrote on his first visit, “Bam! Steve Harvey Nails Self-Esteem on the Oprah Show”, I stated that although Harvey never mentioned the word self-esteem, that’s exactly what he was talking about, and is really the basis of his book. I say that because many of the things he suggest women do, or don’t do, comes naturally for the woman who holds herself in high regard.
When he discussed “the 90-day rule”; which meant not giving away your cookie (sex) to someone too soon, that’s all about self-esteem. By the way, today in responding to a question, Harvey clarified that the 90-day rule not only includes sex, but heavy petting (which in most people’s minds is really one and the same).
Oprah took questions from the audience and from viewers, and some of Harvey’s responses were gems:
On Why Men Cheat
“Because there are so many women out there willing to cheat with him. It’s an easy do.”
On Men Thinking You Owe Them Something When They Spend Money
“Men throw a lot of fish in the water, what you snap at becomes the bait.”
On Men Being Intimidated By Women With High Expectations
“Real men aren’t scared of standards and requirements.”
On Men Not Sticking Around If Sex Isn’t Immediate
“If a man likes you, he’ll wait. Men know when you’re desperate.”
And, I do believe this one is my favorite:
“Chivalry isn’t dead, it’s just not required anymore.” Bam!
I must applaud Steve Harvey for jumping into some pretty turbulent waters and possibly opening himself up to criticism from both men and women. I think he is doing an excellent job of saying some things that really need to be said, and I think, particularly for young women, it’s so much more effective to hear it from a man.
Harvey’s bottom line: if you don’t see yourself as worthy, few others will.
Also, consider that setting standards doesn’t just mean how a man looks, or what he drives; it means asking what kind of person is he? What kind of heart does he have? And as Harvey advised, it means finding out … ”Does he love his mother?”
Another article I wrote on the Steve Harvey book: Steve Harvey’s Book Touches Sensitive Nerve.
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I read the book and saw the interview—not too sure what you’re talking about Stephanie, but I think he had insights worth considering.
Thanks for the above comments on the article. And, thanks Bay and Annina for clarifying Steve’s and my position to Stepahnie. Unfortunately, she completely misunderstood what Harvey was saying: NOT that women only have a “vagina” to offer a man, but that she has SO MUCH MORE. He is saying, that because of their great worth, women should demand more of men than many usually demand and subsequently get.
I personally found it wonderful that a man (one who had probably done all the wrong things) in previous relationships is standing up saying to women … As long as men aren’t required to give more (in terms of how they treat a woman), women won’t get more.
Since I wrote both my articles on the Harvey book and Oprah interview, I have read other blogs and articles on the subject, and am amazed at how many women are angry at Harvey for his advice. I say this … if what you’re doing is working for you, don’t read his book and don’t take his advice. On the other hand, think about the women who might benefit from being assured they’re worthy.
The only women who benefit from Steve’s book are ghetto women and airheads who have no common sense to begin with. They are the type of women who will eat any advice offered to them b/c they are just soooo desperate for a man. I gotta give it to Steve–for a man who doesn’t respect women–especially his own ex wife–he found a nice side hustle to his radio show.
Women, grow up. Stop taking responsbility for a man’s inability to be a mature, adult human being. Stop supporting men who will steal from another woman (this book idea was STOLEN) and start thinking for YOURSELVES!
Thank you for your comment Angelina. You say the only women who can benefit from Steve’s book are ghetto women and airheads who have no common sense. What about the high rate of teen pregnancy? Young women who are sooooo desperate for male attention they are serving their bodies up without a second thought, when sex isn’t really what they’re seeking. I’m not saying a book like Harvey’s can solve all problems that women, young and old are having in relationships, but I believe it can help.
Again, still surprised at how upset some women are at someone simply saying … always demand excellent treatment from men. If the advice doesn’t apply, DON’T TAKE IT! It might not apply to you, but might apply to many, many others. Wouldn’t you want those women to benefit from some suggestions that could give them food for thought? Particularly if they’re ghetto airheads.
As for Steve Harvey’s personal life, nobody’s saying he’s perfect, and he’s definitely not a psychlogist. He’s just a man talking from a man’s perspective. Take it or leave it for what it is.