The Truth About Love
A phenomenal book about the truth about true love versus infatuation and how truly knowing the difference can change your life.
Because I have had to be my own parent, friend and family much of my life (I am an orphan for life) I have turned to many great sources when I needed inspiration, strength, and wisdom to carry on.
One great book that I am currently reading is called “The Truth About Love: The Highs, the Lows, and How You Can Make It Last Forever” by, Pat Love, Ed.D. I am thoroughly enjoying it right now. While I am not in a relationship right now, I am a passionate advocate of life long learning, continual self-development and growth among many other things.
Within this book so far, Love (appropriately named!) explains the difference between true love and infatuation and all the many stages in between. As most of already know, it is very easy to be physically attracted to many different people. That is superficial, infatuation, but it is not true love.
True love consists of commitment, respect, and work. It is something that most romantic movies fail to reveal to us with most showing the infatuation stage as true love. Love says it is no wonder our divorce rate has increased, with such unrealistic views on true love many people often feel that they are no longer in love if that high intense passion begins to leave or wane off from time to time.
In Love’s book, she gives examples of couples who seemed to be on the brink of a break up or divorce and how through simple techniques and remembering what true love really is they were able to not only bounce back 100% they were able to make their relationships better than before.
As with anything in life, true love takes work, attention, and a mutual view of a future path together or the willingness to compromise and sacrifice for the good of the relationship and not for one person or the other. When you make a commitment to someone you are making a commitment to the union of two people. Hopefully, if you decide to read this book you will learn as much as I have!
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Sounds like a useful book.
I believe you’re right with this sentence: “true love takes work, attention, and a mutual view of a future path together or the willingness to compromise and sacrifice for the good of the relationship and not for one person or the other.”
“Ain’t that the truth!” Sounds like a good book to read.
Wonderfully written!
Dear Louie, it was! Thank you so kindly for your comment.
Dear IcyCucky, I am so glad that you liked that quote!
Dear Lucy, always a wonderful gift and pleasure to receive a comment from you. It is a wonderful book.
Dear M.C., thank you with all my heart!
Best wishes to all.
Sincerely,
-Liane Schmidt.
Well written as always. Not even quite sure how I stumbled on this but I’m certain it’s a book I should read. Thanks darlin’
Dear TP Sage, your comments are always truly appreciated. If you read it, I hope you enjoy it.
Blessings & best wishes to all.
Sincerely,
-Liane Schmidt.
Liane I am saddened that you chose to remove my recent comment – posted; September 23. If it was removed by some other means then I apologise. However (and I am only new to this site so I’m still uncertain as to how comments are edited or removed), I presume that my remarks were deleted because they were seen as negative, disrespectful or even derogatory, but perhaps this is also an incorrect assumption.
The reason why I am saddened is because I believe that my comments were in fact quite the opposite. I have read much of your work and enjoy a lot of it. However I have yet to find any observations that indicate areas where your work could be improved. Is this not what we all strive for in any aspect of our lives – to seek out ways of improving what it is that we are driven to do? Existence, nature, being; is made from both sides of the polarity between negative and positive. This I understand to be a universal law. While remaining positive has its merits; it also omits the fact that not everything on this planet operates in that way. We are in danger of creating division between “us and them” and therefore further alienating those that are in dire need of positive influence. If my comments disturbed you then why at least could you not tell me so? Maybe I would learn something – I’m sure there is a still a lot for me to discover; I have no doubt that there always will be.
As I stated in my original comment; I also have work published that I would warmly welcome any criticism about – both positive and negative. I understand that I am not perfect and that indeed nothing is so – so anything that may lead to a discovery for improvement would never be shunned by me, as much as even I may wish or attempt to ignore it.
I also want to make it clear that I am not trying to draw up any controversy that will cause an increase in the viewing of my work and I am quite happy to continue this dialogue (should you wish to do so) through private emails. That choice is yours and I sincerely hope, regardless of any influence that these words may or may not have had on you; that you will do whatever your heart speaks.
My regards, with respect, peace and natures love.
Eli
happy with work and the time you put
Yeah, I have seen some couple break up/divorce simply because they stop to learn from one another. Very sad indeed. They really should begin by starting to learn respecting themselves.